tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post880455062091193554..comments2023-09-12T09:33:43.919+01:00Comments on Behind The Child: Growing painsTiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11360092874754466982noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-57752234980568877032010-09-20T04:01:01.450+01:002010-09-20T04:01:01.450+01:00oh what perfect insight! and you have found the an...oh what perfect insight! and you have found the answer that will bring you exactly what you both need: her independence and secure attachment- and those are firm but loving boundaries, and rules to abide by, and little tolerance (though not intolerance) for crazy long tantrums :) <br /><br />you are an amazing mother.kitchuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03907460384010952009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-7619755964755186602010-09-07T20:14:48.439+01:002010-09-07T20:14:48.439+01:00Praying for you both and watching your progress cl...Praying for you both and watching your progress closely Tia, as I will soon be coming to you for advice for "the boy"! Especially once he's in control of the wheels and can go the opposite direction to the one I need us to go in...<br />Catherine xCatherinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-20491902431119261182010-09-07T18:31:11.157+01:002010-09-07T18:31:11.157+01:00Wow - will be praying as I'm sure it won't...Wow - will be praying as I'm sure it won't be an easy ride! Rest assured I only gave you the book because I have the same struggles and any books that are remotely helpful seem worth passing on to others!<br /><br />You have inspired me to start being firmer with the Mancub. I have decided that NOW is the time that he will start having to eat at least one mouthful of everything on his plate. So, one mouthful of peas in today. Hurrah! It did involve a bit of time in his cot but we got there.<br /><br />Youe interfering sister-in-law!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-87112577948970557152010-09-07T12:03:45.671+01:002010-09-07T12:03:45.671+01:00Yay, go Tia!
This post resonated with me a lot. J...Yay, go Tia!<br /><br />This post resonated with me a lot. Jordan used to dominate the house with his rages but now he's a gentle giant. Which isn't to say he doesn't have the odd prima donna tizzy but then I've been known to have one myself...Elinorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15233219453840471777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-81805298112503123932010-09-06T15:05:03.435+01:002010-09-06T15:05:03.435+01:00Good luck Tia...easier to say than do, but definit...Good luck Tia...easier to say than do, but definitely worth it. I was shocked when I was flung into residential college, and the average social age seemed to be 10-12 (in those without PMLD, doing A-levels/GCSE/GNVQ etc)...you're definitely doing the right thing by LF...not saying my 'angry at the world' teenager was right either, but there's got to be a happy medium...Swiftnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-91031688238136418582010-09-06T05:30:12.216+01:002010-09-06T05:30:12.216+01:00LF is smart and has been in control . But, then s...LF is smart and has been in control . But, then she is so cute and no one ever thought she'd be able to be the able kiddo she is. <br />You are very wise to take over control now before she hits those teens. It will be much easier then.<br />You may go through a few tough weeks as you both sort things out but it will be worth it.<br />You are such a good mum and the fact LF behaves when out just shows she knows what is right.<br />Hugs and prayers for both of you.Doorlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14319009549208023236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-41854209914818679562010-09-05T20:38:05.628+01:002010-09-05T20:38:05.628+01:00wow. once again, you amaze me, Tia. it's so ...wow. once again, you amaze me, Tia. it's so hard to walk this fine line with our kiddos! i love that you are "taking the bull by the horns", or perhaps, more realistically, "taking the Little Fish by the gills", and doing what is right and best for your child.<br /><br />by way of encouragement, we are going through a time of teaching with Isaac too. we were so thrilled when he learned to shake a toy to make it rattle. he "whams" it on his thigh over and over and smiles. Buuuuuuut imagine trying to change his diaper while he's "whamming" a pretend toy! it's the same motion, but now it's "hitting". [sigh...] <br /><br />so we're working on "hands down when we're changing pants." it's hard to discipline his playing, but we know it's the right thing for that activity. now that we will have a carer, we can't have him hitting her! he has to learn the difference.<br /><br />so...i understand a tiny bit where you are right now, and it's only 5-6 times a day, not all day long. BUT it's the good and right thing, and you will conquer it.<br /><br />don't be discouraged. keep sharing with us. be brave to ask for suggestions. pray a LOT! ;o)<br /><br />AleshaAleshahttp://obtainingmercy.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-57464086126841919982010-09-05T07:28:03.150+01:002010-09-05T07:28:03.150+01:00Hugs, Praying for patience! And deffinitely prayin...Hugs, Praying for patience! And deffinitely praying for you both as you retake the control.<br />Love you loads<br />TinaTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00597768004706150862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-78207759451371044152010-09-05T06:30:08.498+01:002010-09-05T06:30:08.498+01:00Good for you Tia! If you figure out how to get he...Good for you Tia! If you figure out how to get her to mind you, let me know....I've been working on that one with B. for 12 months now. She will love you more, as she realizes you still love her inspite of those "hissy fits" Praying for strength, stamina and patience for you in this.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11956327914943905095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-76101595769036858602010-09-05T05:07:03.358+01:002010-09-05T05:07:03.358+01:00It is a battle and a challenge sometimes to know h...It is a battle and a challenge sometimes to know how much to push for and what to expect--but I have found that those with special needs can do more than they want us to think they can and they are quite stubborn about it.<br /><br />And when we have kids who can't do much at all and the little things are big accomplishments--it is harder to not give in to the one who has some needs yet is able to do alot for themself too.<br /><br />There will be some battles and some questioning of yourself on your part--but hang in there and you'll both be glad.<br /><br />praying for strength, wisdom and patience.<br /><br />Debra<br /><br />I'm sure there are those who have thought that I've been to hard at times with Alissa--but most of the times when she says I can't and I say you can--she can. Doesn't make me real popular with her--but it is for her best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-39541586863223142622010-09-05T04:13:07.900+01:002010-09-05T04:13:07.900+01:00Hi, Tia
I totally "get* what you are saying ...Hi, Tia<br /><br />I totally "get* what you are saying here. My mom raised her disabled child (me) first, then 7.5 years later, my perfectly healthy sister. <br /><br />And was completely shocked when someone informed her that most 6 year olds can and do dress themselves.<br /><br />Hang in there.<br /><br />A.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06458006179630112049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-5464119901313998602010-09-05T02:54:50.004+01:002010-09-05T02:54:50.004+01:00I agree with the other comments here... and I'...I agree with the other comments here... and I'll be praying as well.HennHousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14211470969275795779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-45507517974236513782010-09-04T23:50:06.693+01:002010-09-04T23:50:06.693+01:00Hugs & Prayers!! It's a hard job. Hang i...Hugs & Prayers!! It's a hard job. Hang in there, you CAN do it and LF will be the better for it.MOM2_4https://www.blogger.com/profile/15217776952532137825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-47107671964504037222010-09-04T22:38:34.647+01:002010-09-04T22:38:34.647+01:00Long time lurker, here. I'll be praying for yo...Long time lurker, here. I'll be praying for you all, if that's okay? It sounds like the right, but tough, thing to be doing. It's really clear that LF loves you tonnes, and her attachment to you isn't going anywhere.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2411253170651203836.post-29938346837613659992010-09-04T22:36:50.910+01:002010-09-04T22:36:50.910+01:00That's parenting all right. We've all been...That's parenting all right. We've all been somewhere similar. She really will thank you in the long run. Best of luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com