Thursday, 30 June 2011
Joan Wolf brings the Persian Court vividly to life, and uses it as a backdrop to tell the compelling story of one girl's obedience to God and to her elders. A love story, and a lesson in trusting God no matter where He leads.
I'll admit, when this book arrived, I put it aside for a while. It didn't feel like the light reading I thought I needed at the time. But, I ran out of other reading matter and I opened it up. And I fell into a world painted so beautifully that two weeks later, I am still at home in the Palace and in the market place, with the young Esther giggling with her friends, and with Queen Esther, taking her life in her hands to plead for her uncle and her nation. I'm pleased I had respite that day, because Esther's world was far more gripping than my own, even though I already knew how the story would play out.
Joan Wolf has written a compelling book, and I can't wait to see whose story she chooses to tell next.
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Thursday, 23 June 2011
British Gas, despite being asked not to, continue to phone to beg me to return to them. I remind them that we cancelled our contract shortly after they left me without gas (so no cooker, no central heating) for six weeks one cold winter, despite knowing I had a very sick baby and two profoundly disabled older children at home. If they had no engineers available to repair our leak then, I remain unconvinced they'd manage any better now. Every time they ring, I go over this with them, they promise to remove my phone number from their records; every couple of weeks they phone back and we go over the whole thing again. Perhaps I should charge them for my time?
Then there's the company which has no-one at all a the other end, just silence and a hang up, and an 0845 number. Generally once an hour for a few days until someone is there and gets to hear all about my irateness. I'm not sure what they're selling yet; when I point out they've just irritated me to the point where I will be actively advising against them they suddenly decide to stop calling. For a while.
There's the large selection of people who insist I must have taken out a loan with payment protection insurance, and must be due for £3,000 compensation. Clearly they know better than I do; I'd quite like to know who did take this loan out in my name, and what they spent it on?
The callers who insist they have a grant from the government just for me, and that I must let them install loft insulation. Strange that the government is so adamant, considering that I live in a ground floor flat. Just as I beat them down, another lot pop up, begging to be allowed to fit double glazing, for a minimal fee, all I have to do is agree to let other people into my house regularly to look at it. Clearly, they've never visited. Or they'd realise that a) this is not the show home they would appreciate. And b) I already have double glazing.
Then there's the woman who rings every four months or so, really delighted to inform me that I have been specially selected to go on a free holiday; better than that, if I just go to the meeting she'll set up, I will be wined and dined and even receive a pearl necklace, just as a thank you for attending and listening to the information she has about the free holiday. My husband will receive a new wristwatch too. She's very nice, very persuasive. But when I point out that I have no husband, she tells me it is only suitable for couples, and rings off. It's probably for the best; I'm not sure what I'd do with the pearl necklace really.
For any potential callers out there; I am signed up to the telephone preference system. I don't want compensation for a non-existent injury, I'm sadly not in a position to spend £750 on a Carrbean Cruise, even if it is a price I'll never find anywhere else. I don't want a new credit card and certainly won't be signing up for one over the phone. I'm tied into my electricity and gas suppliers* for the next two years, I don't need more insurance and I'm not especially interested in any kind of lottery prize, not when I haven't actually entered any lottery. Now, if you can somehow break Virgin's monopoly and give me a good deal on broadband, tv and telephone, at the same price but preferably with a significantly more reliable level of internet access, please feel free to call. And if you can work out how to get the wireless wotsit working with the Mac, drop in! But apart from that, please just put the telephone down and back away slowly, for cranky woman walks the building.
I'm still shaking my head over Tuesday's caller though; I can only assume he was blindly following a script someone somewhere had devised to increase sales.
Voice at the end of the phone: Hello, this is Gowrings Mobility; I am trying to contact a Miss Goldie.
Me: Goldie died three years ago.
VATEOTP: Oh, I am sorry to hear that. So, would you be interested in a wheelchair accessible vehicle?
*OK, OK, I know you supply it and they are simply contracted to bill for it. Or whatever it is you are telling me. But I don't care. I have no interest in switching. Especially not at bedtime.
Sunday, 19 June 2011
Today, Mog decided to celebrate her birthday by having another big run of seizures.
The rest of us celebrated in a slightly nicer manner, with scones and cream and strawberries and raspberries fresh from the garden, chocolate brownies and cakes and lots of singing and chatting.
Mog slept off the Midazolam - rather too well.
But tomorrow when she wakes up, she'll have a large stack of new clothes to choose from, a stash of new music to listen to (and if anyone here was the sender of the "Glee" CD, please identify yourselves; contrary to the label in the bag, I know she didn't order it herself!), some beautiful fluffy pink lights to look at, and an assortment of cheques and gift vouchers to enjoy spending.
Meanwhile I'm thinking back. I wasn't at that original Birth Day, but I remember her First Birthday; a teeny tiny Tumbleform chair and some bells and mirrors, chocolate cake smiles, and wine for the grownups. A second birthday, in our new house; Vtech toys in her standing frame, and sunny smiles with hair finally long enough for bunches. A third birthday, a new baby sister, and lots of splashing around in the paddling pool.
I don't remember her fourth birthday. Did we go to her other parents, rather than them coming to us? I have a picture of her birthday cake and candles and cuddles, but was that another time?
Birthday number five, and an invitation to the whole nursery class to join us at home, jump in her ball pool, check out her sensory lights, play with her new fountain in the garden. Bouncing classmates and guitar playing teacher, and all good fun.
Her sixth Birthday had vanished too, until I checked back through the blog - proof that keeping this record is useful to me if to no one else. A big, multiple day event, with Birthday breakfasts and days out, making a Rainbow promise and going to the circus.
A change of venue for her seventh Birthday; a week in Tenby with the Harriet Davis Trust. The Little Princess had just had surgery that time too.
And last year, big plans made small when Mog's ability to sit up shrank (thankfully temporarily, although it was a very long temporary), and a day in France exchanged for the great kite flying adventure.
So now Mog is nine, and definitely not little any more. And the combination of new medication and a new wheelchair have taken away most of last years' miseries. New needs have inevitably arisen to replace them, but she continues to make her feelings known, to surprise those around her at times with her opinions on life, and to add that little extra bit of interest whenever she possibly can.
At nine, Mog is a Brownie, and very proud to be one.
Mog goes to school, and has managed to increase her attendance rate from 40% to 60%. I think this past month's absence may be doing something to lower that again though.
Mog goes to Godzone at church, and comes home with drawings she has done herself, and craft projects she's had a little more help with. She is usually keen to go, and enjoys joining in the worship.
Mog is using a switch and a talking book in order to communicate her needs and wishes, and enjoys having something to tell us all. She's finally decided it is in her own interests to demonstrate her yes/no responses on request, and as a result, she can talk to people who have only met her once.
Mog has wild brown hair which has still never met a pair of scissors, and she still enjoys having it primped and played with. She has a huge wardrobe, and manages to look good in just about everything in it.
Since having her bar chimes for Christmas, Mog is increasingly using her right arm again to make them jingle (or, preferably, to push them over and make them crash. On second thoughts, perhaps she really hates hearing them jingle).
Mog is, once again, throwing new health issues at us, ensuring that she stayed the primary focus at her Birthday Tea, even if for all the wrong reasons.
Mog is a part of the local community, never short of people who will come over and say hello, surrounded by friends and family who enjoy having her around.
Mog is loved.
Friday, 17 June 2011
When the next surgeon mentioned that tLP's arms might get weaker, and that she might have more difficulty propelling her manual chair, we decided to look for a chair which had the ability to go down low and fit properly under primary school sized tables.
And we found three options. The K450 MX from Permobil, the SnapDragon from Dragon Mobility, and the Skwirrel, supplied in this country by Joncare. All slightly different, with very different price tags. Having taken a good look, we decided the Skwirrel was our best beastie; apart from anything else, Joncare are very local to us (so close, in fact, that the rep turns out to live at the house where our cats run off to when they have had enough of the food I offer them). There's a definite advantage to local suppliers.
So, four weeks ago, we signed on the dotted line, had a very important consultation as to colour (it is supposed to look like a friend's Mini, but unfortunately Ice Blue wasn't on the RAL chart), did some measurements, and handed over a large wodge of cash for a deposit.
I then spoke to Wheelchair Services, who had offered a pretty generous voucher towards it. They sent out the paperwork, giving me accidental kittens when the amount on the letter was for a manual rather than a powerchair, but correcting it quickly and paying Joncare their share by return of post. Hurrah for efficient practice.
And today was The Day. tLP woke up on top form and even consented to eat something for breakfast, in order to have enough energy for the Big Event. We drove round to Joncare, and were greeted with a large cardboard box, decorated with bows, ribbons, a special message to the Little Princess, and of course the signature Skwirrel.
Inside the box:
One rather stunning new wheelchair. The Little Princess decided to try to climb into it herself,
but was defeated, mainly through many of us telling her it wasn't quite ready yet, so took a brief break
before finally being lifted in and handed over ownership.
Note luggage rack for
Most adjustments and tweaks and the inevitable sawing a couple of inches off the foot plates, and then we were free to head outside.
where tLP found herself temporarily interrupted again, as extra tweaks were made to the rather intelligent controller.
Finally, we handed over another large wodge of cash (well, a cheque, but it was a substantial cheque for all that), and were free to try to work out how to fit it into the van. Anyone know if Unwin make longer than standard front straps?
We cannibalised the spare rear straps and were off.
This afternoon, the Little Princess decided to take it for a walk.
I think it's going to take a little while for us to get used to front wheel drive (it's a bit like reversing whilst towing a trailer - turn left to go right, etc.), and a little while for her to get used to using her left hand rather than her right (the theory being this will free up her dominant hand to do all sorts of other things). And I know it'll take me a while to get used to walking the other side of her to hold hands.
But, she loves it. And, if at any time over the past two months, you had asked her why she needed a chair that goes up and down, she would tell you it was so that she could do this:
And now I can retire!
Sunday, 12 June 2011
So discovering that she now needs brain surgery before she can have the spinal surgery she needs to have before she can have the op she actually wants - the one(s) that will give her independence in the loo wasn't exactly the best of news.
And, naturally, the priority is to get her through the op and early recovery, and she needs Mummy by her side for that. Which brings us back to the whole not existing in isolation thing. Much as tLP may think it, leaving Mog in a cupboard somewhere isn't really an option. Not for a whole week, anyway.
And here's where it gets good. Helen House was always going to be our first option; Mog knows the place, the staff know Mog, and I can relax knowing she is safe and under the eyes of the whole medical team there.
But the op was brought forwards, and the hospice is very busy, and whilst they could offer us four nights wrapping around the op, Mog was homeless after Friday.
And our amazing Community Nurse (with a bit of help from some of the more senior staff in various statutory bodies) arranged for Mog to go to our local Barnados/SS/NHS respite care home for the weekend.
And, my previous decisions not to investigate it as an option even when we were dropping with fatigue a year or so ago had to be overturned, and friends with equally complex children reassured me how well their daughters were cared for there, and thinking it was probably better than sticking her in tLP's cupboard, and remembering that it was virtually in the hospital grounds, I was happy for her to go.
And then the op date was brought forwards even more, and instead of Mog being in HH two nights before the surgery, suddenly her stay did not begin until the day itself. And Mog decided to celebrate the news by starting a chest infection, with the interesting refinement of needing oxygen after around 3.30pm.
So here's where friends stepped in, with one friend giving up a Monday to come and care for Mog, and another racing back from work and swapping vehicles to taxi Mog and Grannie to the hospice, ensuring Mog was always with someone competent to suction (which is, as a rule, the best way to ensure she doesn't need it).
And friends stepped in again, to ferry Mog from hospice to hospital, with more friends bringing food and child friendly entertainment. And other friends refused to be insulted by having visits rejected, and continued to pray for a decent recovery.
And family stepped in to sit with whichever child I wasn't driving around to hospital or respite. And to visit tLP every day so I could grab coffee. And to feed the cats, sort the laundry, count the fish, fetch forgotten pieces of equipment (even carrying commodes on public transport).
And tonight, when respite is closed and hospice is full, Ronald McDonald has stepped up, and Mog and I have a bedroom just a 2 minute walk from the ward, and all three of us can be under the same roof for this last night before tLP is discharged.
And Mog informs me she has had a lovely tine and would like to go back to Viking House one day. And I don't think she feels as though she has been shuffled about for our convenience at all, more that she has had an exciting week.
And I am thankful to God for giving her such a lovely time, and surrounding her with carers and nurses not phased by the need for nebs at odd hours of the night, for keeping her stable even when ill, and out of hospital. For knitting tLP's head back together so quickly and for her amazing ability to shrug off major surgery. For all the friends and family and professionals (including some who may fall into two or three of the above categories) who have been helping us out and the others who have offered but so far been surplus to requirements.
And Mog is pleased to have had such fun, excited to see tLP again, and thinking that she would like some new music for her Birthday next week. I think we can manage that.
Saturday, 11 June 2011
Peppa needed a tour of the hospital this morning. She found all the coffee shops, and tried a motorbike in the ward playground. She liked the motorbike so much that she decided to keep riding it even after tLP went back inside. But thankfully she agreed to come and take a nap when we tracked her down again.
After lunch, she had a set of neuro obs. The results were a little worrying (pupils fixed and unevenly dilated, no palpable pulse, blood pressure and sats through the floor). But we decided perhaps the physiology of the knitted pig is different to that of humans, and she certainly seemed happy enough. Bit quiet though.
Bonus points for being recognised by the anaesthetist and most of the surgeons from different specialities too.
Scary points for being removed from the communal area and seated in a quiet and empty room to sign the consent forms. And additional scary points for being told you're last on the list because yours is the big op for the day.
And random entertainment points for every time you spot someone stapling or sellotaping the box back together, especially if you have first witnessed it fall apart as they pick it up. Random entertainment points are useful things; a high score helps turn humiliation (leaking wee bag in the playroom) into humour, and helps turn feeding the bed errors into food for a blog entry. Ish.
Sadly minus points awarded for spending 2 hours in the night trying to comfort a deeply distressed and screaming child, before thinking to ask about medication and realising pain relief is now 90 minutes overdue. Bonus points for not murdering the nurse who both managed to turn up ten minutes after finally settling her to do a set of neuro obs, and them turned up at 6.30 with the comment that she had had a really good night, hadn't she. We won't murder her though; she's been lovely all week really and very poorly babies do take priority over grumpy stable six year olds.
Friday, 10 June 2011
Lots of visitors today. A better appetite, and a brief hello from big sister Mog, moving between her respites.
Leaving tLP with Grannie and a plate of chocolate brownies (which they didn't save for me), I took Mog to her new respite place. Where she was pleased to see a school friend, and I was a little surprised to see one of my first foslings. He's grown a bit since he was the little boy I took camping in the snow one colder than planned church weekend.
Mog was very pleased to stay, and as I left, was nagging her carer to take her into the sensory room. She decided communication was going to be important, so made the effort to demonstrate her yes and no responses (plus a few minor seizures) whilst I was around to interpret. Clever kid.
Nothing major to report medically; side effects of the morphine have very definitely worn off, femoral line dressing has been changed successfully, temperature staying nicely stable and head pain being mostly controlled. Waves of pain and exhaustion seem to roll over her at random intervals, but between them she's still thrilled that the line is our of her hand.
Small one interrupting this post to say "can you help me to turn over, Mumma, I need to face you because you are a beautiful lady." how do you argue with that, even if you have just been mean and miserable and told her to settle down and stop talking?
Thursday, 9 June 2011
A really good day today - look no tube! Cannula out and morphine replaced with ibuprofen. In her own words "Yay! I got my hand back!"
We had to celebrate both that and the third clear MRSA swab in a row by taking a tour of the hospital this afternoon; highlight being watching an ambulance restock and drive off.
A short visit to the schoolroom this morning, whilst Mummy made use of the decontamination chamber up in RMH. No showers for the Princess until the femoral line comes out, but maybe that won't be too long now.
Most favourite object this wonderful blue book, holding artwork and messages from all her classmates. Naming them all is great distraction therapy, and the nurses are all very very impressed with the beautiful drawings and lovely free writing.
All on course to get over to Helen House on Monday we hope.
Wednesday, 8 June 2011
A little leak overnight so lots of sitting up needing to be done during the day to try to keep things draining nicely. And a small girl with a wound painted in Friar's Balsam to seal the wound.
So, a morning in bed doing lots of painting with Grannie and the play lady, and a Mummy with license to grab coffee.
And then an hour with a majorly bloated tummy, a little bowel massage producing a lot of tummy bubbles and then a fairly messy vomit.
So lots of rest in the afternoon; stories with the play lady whilst Mummy went off to be tenderised and basted in orange, lavender and rosemary oils. An effect which produced beautifully relaxed shoulders until I had to brace the Little Princess over a bedpan later on.
Up in her chair for a couple of hours including an escape to buy maltesers and another colouring book, and a brief visit to the outdoor play area before a different kind of leak stopped play.
A rather moody girl, determined that she is not poorly and therefore should be allowed to go home. But with minimal appetite, the need for lots of downtime, and an absolute refusal to see any visitors today except Grannie.
Oh, and an ear infection to add into the mix; some predictable but painful side effects from the morphine, and a long night last night with a faulty humidifier.
Everyone still very pleased with her progress through and she is delighted not to need stickies on her chest tonight, just a bog standard Sats monitor on her toe.
Aromatherapy massage aside, I have so far collected the majority of possible bodily fluids on my comfortable trousers; I'm considering walking myself through a carwash somewhere for speed.
Tuesday, 7 June 2011
One little girl definitely the loudest on HDU, now up on the ward where we have a nice little room to ourselves. Sadly not soundproof; the rest of the ward knows we are here. Happily there are only another six patients.
Sat up for 20 minutes at lunchtime, and managed to drive her own chair here (weepily) this afternoon. Impressed with the very big flat screen television on her bedroom wall; less impressed that people keep coming and poking and prodding at her. And noticing when we change which toe her probe is on which is impressive given her total lack of sensation in her feet.
Everything hurts nothing is right it is all my fault and she doesn't want me, but doesn't want me out of her sight either. This is I'm told a good sign; she is doing better than expected and better than most children one day post op. This we like.
We don't like the very limited pain relief options due to her other problems. We don't like the beep on the "press a button for morphine every 15 minutes" machine. We don't like having neuro obs and bright shiny lights and chest leads and thermometres and lots of lines and tubies.
We do like the iPad, although Mummy in unimpressed with her inability to sort out the wifi, having just handed lots of cash over to access it. We do like visitors as long as they don't touch. We do like one hand holding. But we don't like physios, and Mummy is struggling to understand the logic of having a complicated history taken in great detail and painstakingly entered into the computer on one ward, only to have to repeat the same info on moving wards because the computer systems are incompatible. And frustrated with the non-portability of drugs charts, and silly rules which state that if lactulose was written up at 2pm it must therefore be given at 2am, rather than morning and night.
But these are little things. She's well enough to be well hacked off. And this is good.
The Little Princess had her surgery (decompression of the foramen magnum, forgive me if it's misspelt) on Monday afternoon.
I saw her Monday evening and she was fine. Cross and exhausted, blood pressure a bit high but doing really well, talking, breathing for herself (mostly - she didn't really like not having her Nippy), and wiggling her arms. She's in HDU, I have a bed in the luxurious Ronald McDonald House, and we'll both be on Robins ward once she's a little more recovered.
Had a peaceful night I assume, since no one called me; I am just about to grab some breakfast and then go and find her.
No phones in HDU so messages/texts/emails will be responded to later.
Thanks for all your prayers and support,
Friday, 3 June 2011
Friends of ours suggested we meet at Thomley Activity Centre. I can only assume their daughter then decided she didn't fancy a day out with us, as she promptly had herself admitted to hospital with a chest infection.
So, being the kind, supportive friends that we are, we went without them.
First stop, the playrooms. Avoiding the huge soft play den, we found a girl's paradise, and whilst the Little Princess paused to consider which of the 37 dolls she needed to play with, Mog decided to bling up a postman's uniform.
I think it might just catch on, myself.
Dolls selected, we escaped outdoors and had fun with sand and water trays. Mog sat and dabbled her wrists* in the water as the LP exercised the babies.Another indoor interlude, to make bird feeders (lard and birdseed smashed into a pine cone; nice multisensory stuff) and bird scarers (CDs and coloured paper and trimmings on a kebab skewer; good lethal stuff), and considered the irony of making both items for the same garden.
Back out into bright daylight for fun on the bed swing
and a picnic lunch. Hot coffee, hurrah.
Both girls declined the aerial runway which was a shame. We did manage a fine improvised concerto for drainpipe and ballbearings (you probably had to be there), and a sniff at the sensory room, before heading back inside to have a go at some woodwork. Mog made a dolphin and tLP, an elephant.
And then outside again for the highlight of tLP's day.
And I can swing all by myself!
*Signs you might have cerebral palsy no. 307: you can most easily reach water and sand with your wrists rather than with your fingertips which are curled in towards your body.
Sign no. 308; your arm twists out so the white forearm is more tanned than the back of your hand.
Wednesday, 1 June 2011
An Old Soul, passing through life, liked what he saw and decided to stay. Though everyone knew he was just passing through, this for-a-while child put down roots. And his branches grew high, and his shadow fell wide, and his quiet strength touched many lives.
A gentle spirit, deep roots of love held him fast as his branches shook and trembled. The winds of time, for us a breeze, were for this Old Soul a cyclone. And all too soon the branches snapped; the trunk was felled, and the old soul was free once more.
Now harsh light falls on those who had lived in his shade, and it hurts, for he has gone. But his roots are as deep as his branches were high, and they grow in those who love him. And his enemy, Time, cannot reach him now, and his roots will grow deeper and wider.
Goodbye, Jackanory - it's not only your parents who miss you,